What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior perpetrated by an intimate partner against another.  It is a pattern of behavior that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.

 

Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, psychological or economic actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.

 

Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.

Know the Signs:

EMOTIONAL
Abuse
  • Calls you names, insults you, or continually criticizes you

  • Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive

  • Tries to isolate you from family or friends

  • Monitors where you go, who you talk to, and who you spend time with

  • Does not want you to work

  • Controls finances or refuses to share money

  • Punishes you by withholding affection

  • Expects you to ask permission

  • Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family, or your pets

  • Humiliates you

FINANCIAL
Abuse
  • Sabotages work by stalking or harassing at the workplace

  • Controls how money is spent

  • Denies access to bank accounts

  • Withholds money or gives allowance

  • Runs up large amounts of debt on joint accounts

  • Withholds funds for basic needs - food, medicine, etc.

  • Demands a partner's public benefits

PHYSICAL
Abuse
  • Damages property when angry - throws objects, punches walls, kicks doors, etc.

  • Pushes, slaps, bites, kicks, or chokes you

  • Abandons you in dangerous or unfamiliar places

  • Scares you by driving recklessly

  • Uses a weapon to threaten or hurt you

  • Forces you to leave your home

  • Traps you in your home or keeps you from leaving

  • Prevents you from calling the police or from seeking medical attention

  • Hurts your children

  • Uses physical force in sexual situations

SEXUAL
Abuse
  • Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles

  • Accuses you of cheating or appears jealous of your outside relationships

  • Wants you to dress in a sexual way

  • Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names

  • Forces or manipulates you into having sex or preforming sexual acts

  • Holds you down during sex

  • Demands sex when you are sick, tired,or after beating you

  • Hurts you with weapons or objects during sex

  • Involves other people in sexual activities with you

  • Ignores your feelings regarding sex

Power & Control Wheel

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Equality Wheel

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